I am slowly coming to notice which materialistic things will be a little bit more of a sacrifice to give up completely. The first challenge I faced occurred this past Wednesday morning. Wednesday mornings start a little bit earlier for my family and I. My son begins class half an hour earlier and so then I can take my daughter to her preschool earlier too. In the past, Wednesdays have been reserved as Mommy-daughter date days. We go to Starbucks to share a little breakfast snack and spend some one on one time together.
After dropping my son off at school, we headed out to my daughter’s and on our drive my daughter asks “Mommy, what day is it today?” I mentally slapped my hand to my face realizing I hadn’t thought about this when I told myself earlier this month that I wouldn’t buy any more Starbucks. After responding honestly (of course, I mean, what kind of mother would consider lying to their kid about what day of the week it actually is. I’m being sarcastic), she asked if we could go. I asked her why she wanted to go. “Because I want to have a date with you and talk with you”. Swoon. We went. I got the response I was hoping for, in that she wasn’t more interested in buying some Starbucks Madelines, but actually appreciated our one on one bonding time.
This experience made me realize that I will be selective and mindful about what we choose to spend on. There is a difference between dragging myself into a coffee shop to spend money on my morning fix that I could have made time to brew and throw in a thermos at home versus upholding a family tradition involving quality time that my daughter has come to cherish. I take back my Starbucks ban. I will say, however, that I kept the cup and refilled it with regular college campus coffee later that day for free. Win.
Something else that is currently running out is my scented candle from Bath & Body Works. I’ve been using scented candles as a form of self care for years. My absolute favorite scent is Gardenia. Brings back good memories of trips to Hawai’i with my family. So I’m wondering if this is something that I should allow myself to repurchase. I want to be careful especially in this early stage of making this lifestyle change that I am not overly excusing potential purchases in the name of self care and it being a need.
So far, experiences that involve bonding with my family have been legit enough to spend on. I’m also considering items that run out that bring me peace, such as candles.
Which items do you allow yourself to repurchase?